and a desire to understand why. A brief spat with a good friend this morning caused it and I'm a little confused as to how it blew up. I think it's down to how I handled the conversation, even though I stayed calm and coherent throughout.
A good friend cancelled a movie with me, daughter and friend. Daughter predicted she'd cancel because it happens more often than not and I reassured her it'd be ok. I told daughter that if she cancelled I'd tell her how I felt about it.
We made plans and set times and that was that, until she called this morning and said she'd double booked. I was busy at work and caught somewhat off-guard and pretty pissed-off. I guess normally I'd brush it off and make other arrangements but I couldn't help being frustrated. Part of that frustration stems from the look on daughter's face last time I told her we couldn't do something in similar circumstances, caused in the same way. Another part is how the person is treating not just their friends but themselves too.
It scares me how much she seems to be tied-up in knots. I hate the fact that I can't do anything to help - not even take her out for a treat to brighten her day.
Anyway, my frustration was obviously contagious because I somehow inflamed the situation. I probably should have just said 'It's fine' but I was annoyed and that effected how I handled it. I'm concerned now that I've managed to give myself the 'meh' and I've probably pissed my friend off a fair amount too.
By trying to do something nice.
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