a couple of weeks ago. I've always shied away from answering that question because I find attraction to be more complicated than a simple list of traits I like, however over the past few days I've found myself choosing things about women I see that I like. I think it'll be fun to sit here and babble out a bunch of characteristics I like, and I think it's likely to include a lot of things I don't like as well. I realise that many of the things I'm going to say will be based on stereotypes and the projection of inner thoughts but I won't excuse myself for that. I'll just imagine I'm sat at a computer choosing from the multiple variables humans have to offer.
Let's start with the outside. While I appreciate beauty in its many forms I've never been attracted to really beautiful women other than in a mostly sexual way. It'd be lovely to wake up next to a stunner every day and just be blown away by how beautiful they are, but I've often found personality penalties with great-looking girls. It's safe to say if I met a very pretty girl who had lots of other things going for her and was into me, who would I be to argue? I'm tip-toeing around saying something which I'm struggling to find the words for, but Mike Skinner said it so well: Yes, you are fit, but don't you just know it? Many gorgeous women have something about them which makes them aloof or over-confident, often at the expense of other personality traits and that's not something I find attractive so I tend to be drawn to unusually-attractive girls, unconventionally pretty instead of stunningly gorgeous.
I'm definitely attracted to brunettes and redheads. There's a perceived attitude attached to many blondes, especially those who choose to be blonde, that they're a bit dumb or will have more fun or whatever and I find that to be a bit of a turn-off. I'm over-analysing this, but I'm definitely more drawn to brunettes and when I spot a cute redhead I almost have to stop myself going up to them and wrapping them up in my arms.
I don't mind what length hair is as long as it's not very short. It can tickle my nose in my sleep or never get in the way, but it should be feminine.
Build. Hmmmm, this is a minefield. I'd happily choose someone who's my height or shorter than me, down to about five feet. She'd be anywhere between slightly skinny to a bit chubby; I certainly don't mind a bit of extra weight and I'd probably swing more toward slightly heavier than average if I had to narrow it down. I definitely prefer a small chest although I'm open to being convinced otherwise! I'd be happy with any figure from lanky to hour-glass although again, if pushed, hour-glass. A nice bum and some muscle on the legs would be great, please, and nice feet too. It feels weird going into such detail but I guess that's what I'm here for.
I don't really know how she should dress but as women seem to generally have an innate sense of style anyway I'm happy to leave that open, although I do like to see dresses in the summer and she must be able to carry-off a hat. I've no idea why, but hats are good.
Finally, confidence. I know this is tied to what's inside but it's definitely something I'd like to see on the outside. She must be confident in herself and her place the world around her.
Well, that was good. While none of these things should exclude someone without a particular trait, it's nice to define some of what I like. I think building a picture of her on the outside will be considerably easier than defining personality, which I'll do in the next post.
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